More often than not, it has become second nature to us to be way more critical towards ourselves in comparison to anyone else. We are the harshest judge when it comes to our own decisions, situations, our lives in general. Why is that? Is it a defense mechanism? Real answer, it’s different for everybody.

For some people, it’s because they were being treated like this growing up. Their parents criticized their every move so they learned to do that to themselves as well. For others, they got it as a result of their insecurities. Regardless of where it stems from, it usually manifests itself in similar ways.

One way to try and stop yourself from doing this is to unlearn the negative things engraved in you when you were younger. This is easier said than done but it is achievable. You should take a hard and long look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are not the bad things that happened to you but you are what overcame it.

Another is to leave room for mistakes. You have to understand that you are not perfect and that’s perfectly normal. If you criticize yourself every time you do wrong, you will continuously build these obstacles for yourself. You are not defined by your mistakes but how you grew from them.

We are all struggling to be good to ourselves, especially after all that has happened to us, but always remember that you were beautifully and wonderfully made.