Emotional control is an important part of life. In order to be a functioning adult in society, you have to exhibit some level of emotional control. Controlling emotions is an important part of life and functioning in all areas of society: romantic, professional, and familial.
QUESTIONS TO REFLECT ON:
The first question you should ask yourself when determining if you have control over your emotions is whether or not you express your emotions properly. If you bottle up your emotions, rather than expressing them, you can cause yourself to boil over.
Another way to identify if this is your problem is to see if you have a tendency to feel overwhelmed by your emotions; if you don’t express them properly, they’ll build up and by the time you notice them, you’re feeling overwhelmed, as if you can’t take anymore. This is a condition we call “emotional overload.” You should properly express your emotions in a healthy way, rather than letting them fester and boil.
There are a number of ways to determine if you are in control of your emotions, but the most accurate way is honest personal reflection.
QUESTIONS TO REFLECT ON:
Thinking
- Do you reflect on why it is hard for you to express?
- Are you thinking about all the the things that help you accept your feelings?
- Are you thinking about how you can further develop how to express your emotions?
Talk – New Language
- Are you actively expressing the how you feel?
- Do you speak of all the good and positive things that make you feel good and name the things that you like?
- Are you continuously telling yourself and reminding yourself to accept your feelings?
Behaviour
- Do you accept your emotions and own up to them fully?
- Do you try and focus on positive behaviours that help you with your emotions?
- Do you continuously learn more about how to understand and express your feelings and emotions ?
Relationships & Contribution
- Do you hold back when it comes to expressing your emotions to others?
- Are you willing to make sure that you always try to accept your emotions so that you can express them to your peers better?
